1. His Behavior is “Hot and Cold”
Hot and cold means he acts like he’s still in love with you one day and then acts as if you don’t exist the next. For example, he might call and text all the time for a week and then ignore your texts the next week.
His behavior is incredibly confusing because it is rooted in his own confusion. He doesn’t quite know how he feels about you. There is a part of him that misses you, that wishes you were there, that can’t fully let go. But then the rational part of him recognizes that there were issues in the relationship…that things weren’t always all that great…whatever the reason for the breakup is still a reason.
It is essentially a battle between his head and his heart. The feelings are still there, though. But just because we want something doesn’t always mean it’s what’s best for us. So that’s essentially why he goes hot and cold. He’s trying to reconcile the fact that he wants you with the fact that he knows the relationship wasn’t working.
I know it’s easier said than done, but don’t let his behavior upset you. In other words, do not react or call him out for being confusing. This will only cause conflicts and push him away even further.
Tip: Don’t engage. If he makes plans with you, but then suddenly breaks them off, play it cool. If he ignores your texts – stop sending them. Stay strong after a breakup and focus on yourself.
Is there a chance you can get back together? Of course. But that can only happen if something changes, and change takes time and work.